Two of my dear friends lost their spouses 1 year ago. As I sat pondering tonight at what comfort I might give them, I was led to the most recent talk of our prophet Thomas S Monson who lost his wife less than 6 months ago. I sat down to annotate his talk and here are my thoughts along with my favorite parts.
"Of utmost comfort to me during this tender time of parting have been my testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ and the knowledge I have that my dear Frances lives still. I know that our separation is temporary. We were sealed in the house of God by one having authority to bind on earth and in heaven. I know that we will be reunited one day and will never again be separated. This is the knowledge that sustains me."
For me as well, my temple marriage and sealing brings me great comfort because I know that we will be together again. God has promised us that if we keep our promises to Him. That also gives me a goal and a purpose to work towards. That temple sealing also allows me to feel closer to him now.
"Sometimes in times of trial, "We feel abandoned, heartbroken, alone. We are inclined
to view our own personal misfortunes through the distorted prism of pessimism. We become impatient for a solution to our problems, forgetting that frequently the heavenly virtue of patience is required."
When we are in a place of darkness, we can lose our hope-discouragement, and personal pessimism can set in. We forget that PATIENCE is required. I have to remind myself of that every day!
The difficulties which come to us present us with the real test of our ability to endure. A fundamental question remains to be answered by each of us: Shall I falter, or shall I finish?
Enduring is one of the biggest challenges, but enduring doesn't mean just toughing it out or suffering through. We have to endure WELL. THat means actively finishing, not having someone drag us across the finish line.
"Whenever we are inclined to feel burdened down with the blows of life, let us remember that others have passed the same way, have endured, and then have overcome."
"The history of the Church in this, the dispensation of the fulness of times, is replete with the experiences of those who have struggled and yet who have remained steadfast and of good cheer. The reason? They have made the gospel of Jesus Christ the center of their lives. This is what will pull us through whatever comes our way. We will still experience difficult challenges, but we will be able to face them, to meet them head-on, and to emerge victorious."
The examples of Job and Joseph Smith and countless others from the scriptures give me great courage that I can also face trials head-on and emerge victorious!
"From the bed of pain, from the pillow wet with tears, we are lifted heavenward by that divine assurance and precious promise: “I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”7 Such comfort is priceless."
These are words that I hear when I pour out my soul to God .
"Sadness and suffering are universal. N
I used to wish and hope that I would never have to face a difficult trial. Now I know better. I understand that these experiences are necessary if we want the experience that precedes major growth.