Sanctify Your Marriage
Sept 29, 2013
I was with some married friends the other day, and
while I rode alone in the back seat of the car I listened to their conversation...
As I listened
like a fly on the wall, I just wanted to sink into the seat and disappear. It absolutely kills me to listen to a
couple treat each other like that now.
Scott and I were pretty good about stuff like that, we valued being together more that what we were doing. If we knew something was important to the other person, we generally went along with their suggestion. Scott had a great ability to put himself second and me first.
There was a disagreement about where we
would go to eat.
Scott and I were pretty good about stuff like that, we valued being together more that what we were doing. If we knew something was important to the other person, we generally went along with their suggestion. Scott had a great ability to put himself second and me first.
I remember during our usual Sunday night walk Scott telling me about a conversation in church with several other men. He was listening to a
younger man who was talking about standing his ground when he knew he was
right. My husband’s comment was,
“It’s not about who’s right or who’s wrong. It’s about making your wife happy. If you do something or say something that makes her unhappy or makes her feel less about herself, then you are wrong and you have failed in your duty.”It was a pretty bold statement, but Scott felt pretty strongly about the importance of treating your wife like she was the most important thing in the world. It killed him to see men hurt their wives through criticism, selfishness, or laziness. He often stood up for women and would make the effort to befriend men who he thought might benefit from his example.
