tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8102137241936675257.post1053332088459643156..comments2024-02-10T03:03:46.141-06:00Comments on It's Not for Naught: a young widow's journey: The Long, Lonely RoadVeronica Clarkehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15785962978284238696noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8102137241936675257.post-87294274807902736382017-12-08T06:27:49.535-06:002017-12-08T06:27:49.535-06:00Since this is also new to me I’m not sure what lif... Since this is also new to me I’m not sure what life experiences are able to do for me. So far I have learned to be an independent single mother now that my husband has passed. <br /><br />My husband Steve would plan all of our trips, pay all of our bills, pay the taxes, take care of the medical insurance, he basically did everything and I would ask him if I can help. And he would always say he did not want me to have to do those things because they were stressful and he just wanted me to not have to worry about them.<br /> My husband Steve would plan all of our trips, pay all of our bills, pay the taxes, take care of the medical insurance, he basically did everything and I would ask him if I can help. And he would always say he did not want me to have to do those things because they were stressful and he just wanted me to not have to worry about them. <br /><br /> But because he did that, even though his intentions were pure and good. It’s somewhat handicapped me when he died because I knew nothing of medical insurance and how it worked, I know nothing about taxes, I did not have a job because he was very successful, and I did all the stuff with the kids, taking them to school picking them up, shopping for them, attending school activities, cooking dinner at Night for them and breakfast in the morning. I was so busy with the kids I really didn’t have time for a job. Even though before I met Steve I always worked. <br /><br /> Now I am in the position that I need to get a job. But I have been out of the workforce for 10 years. I think who is going to hire me now? I haven’t worked in so long. I’m completely out of the game it feels. I do have a degree from Texas A&M university in ecology. But I’ve never utilized it. I am 37 years old and I feel I am capable of getting a job that you utilizes my degree but I need to take some special courses to catch up to the real world.<br /><br /> The experiences that have impacted me, since my husband died. Have been having to learn all of these situations that I had no clue how to do before. Like taxes, insurance, paying bills on time. I had to move from the house we shared into a smaller house and I had to find the house by myself but with the help with my realtor who is also my best friend. We found the perfect home, but I had to take care of all the legal work by myself. I have had some of Steve’s attorney friends help me along the way. <br /><br />Some of these experiences have been liberating to me as a single mother and a woman. Because it is things that I have never had to do before, and I am now having to learn them. It sometimes makes me feel good about myself that I have done these things and set certain goals and accomplish them.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04501938624874785800noreply@blogger.com